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Moving In Together? Don’t Make These 11 Common Mistakes

Moving In Together? Don’t Make These 11 Common Mistakes Expand options

You’ve taken trips together, you’ve survived your first fight, and you’ve celebrated anniversaries. Now, you and your significant other are about to hit another milestone: moving in together.

Living together comes with all kinds of perks, like less rent and more quality time. But it’s a big transition, and lots of couples struggle with cohabitation.

You don’t have to be one of them.

Simply study up on these common mistakes couples make when moving in together. Once you know how to avoid them, you’ll be well on your way to domestic bliss.

Here are 10 pitfalls to steer clear of:

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Mistake 1: Not talking about why you’re moving in

Moving in together is a huge step, so consider it carefully before you sign on the dotted (lease) line.
You and your partner should have several conversations about this
, but the first one should be about why you’re doing it.

Be honest: Why are you moving in together?

Is it because you’re sick of the subway commute to your partner’s place? Are you looking to save money on rent?

It’s fine if money and convenience are motivations for you — everyone likes having extra cash in the bank — but those shouldn’t be your only reasons.

So with that said, do you see this as a step toward marriage? What are your long-term goals and plans with this person?

It’s important to be transparent with each other in case you aren’t quite on the same page. Some people assume moving in together is an unspoken promise of engagement, only to discover their significant other doesn’t believe in marriage at all.

Whatever you do, don’t move in together because you think it’ll “save” your relationship. It definitely won’t, but it will place you in a legally binding living situation with your soon-to-be ex.

Mistake 2: Ignoring the signs that you aren’t ready

It’s natural to be nervous about living with your boyfriend or girlfriend. But there’s a difference between some harmless moving-in jitters and well-founded fears that this is a horrible idea.

Do you and your partner know how to compromise? More importantly, do you know how to move past fights?

These aren’t sexy skills, but they are essential for cohabitation. If you two have never settled a big argument — or have ongoing ones all the time — that’s a bad sign.

Here are four other red flags:

  1. You’ve never spent more than a few consecutive days together.
  2. You can’t comfortably talk about money, health, or other weight issues.
  3. You’ve always been long-distance.
  4. You’re rushing into this because of an expiring lease — or you’re rushing things because someone (family, friends, or your partner) is pressuring you.

If the negative signs are there, take a step back and rethink moving in together. Maybe you need to hit pause on the plan for a few months while you work out some issues, which is okay.

It doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed, or that you’re immature. It’s just smart planning.

Mistake 3: Avoiding the conversation about money

You and your significant other are about to share the costs on a lot of bills — electric, cable, groceries, and rent, to name just a few. That means you have to get frank about your finances.

Figure out how you want to divide up your expenses first. How much will each of you owe per month? And how are you going to pay it?

Will it be an even 50-50 split? Or will you work out percentages based on income?

Make sure the division is fair, and that both of you feel comfortable with the final numbers.

The two of you may want to devise a budget while you’re at it. That way, you’ll stay on track with all your boring bills and your planned vacation to Thailand.

Another important question to ask:

Do you want to open a joint bank account?

It’s not for everyone, but it can come in handy when managing shared expenses. One BuzzFeed tipster recommends putting the same chunk of your paychecks into a joint account each month for bills, food, and cleaning supplies.

That way, “you’ll never have that awkward ‘I spent $35 on groceries yesterday, so it’s your turn to order food tonight’ conversation — you both can happily stuff your faces with Chinese food knowing everything is even.”

But no matter what system you land on, always make sure to keep the lines of communication open. If one of you is stressed about money or has an issue with the new budget, say so.

It might be awkward at first, but it’ll help you avoid fights in the future.

Mistake 4: Searching for an apartment without a gameplan

Since you’re already getting real about how you want to spend money and where you see yourselves in five years, it’s also important to get real about where you want to live. Sit down together and figure out your ideal neighborhoods and an ideal budget.

Then, come up with your list of must-haves. You can’t go into this expecting your significant other to read your mind. Unless he/she is a Legilimens or Professor X, in which case, run.

Be sure to also check in with each other frequently throughout the process. What does your boyfriend or girlfriend think of your broker? What about the pet clause in the lease?

Finding a new place is exhausting, and the only way you’ll survive is by keeping a united front. Well, that and following all these crucial apartment-hunting tips.

Mistake 5: Procrastinating on the required renter documents

The bad news: There’s a mountain of paperwork in your future.

The good news is that you can knock some of it out early. And you should if you want to land a place in time and on budget.

Before you head out to the 15 apartment tours on a Saturday, you and your partner should each collect some key documents. Scan color copies of your IDs. Get and print letters of employment and/or pay stubs. Request a free credit report.

Next, bring all of these papers with you when you meet with your broker or prospective landlord so you can get an application ready immediately if the opportunity arises.

This boosts your chances of snagging a great apartment and preserves your relationship. Because if one of you stalls on printing a pay stub and it costs you that dream one bedroom, there’s bound to be resentment.

Mistake 6: Only putting one person’s name on the lease

We’re not trying to jinx things for you, but there is a chance you and your partner could break up. And although you can’t protect yourself from the heartache following a potential split, you can protect yourself from a potential financial strain.


By making sure both your names appear on the apartment lease.

As Kiplinger’s explains, this move holds both parties accountable for the rent should things turn sour.

If you end up taking your ex to court for skipping out on payments, your case will be much stronger with two names — not just your own — on the lease. It’s a situation you don’t want to imagine, obviously, but it’s happened before.

Mistake 7: Failing to consolidate your stuff

You’ve each spent years building up separate stashes of furniture, appliances, dishes, bedding, and towels. Now you’re about to combine all that stuff into one living space. So unless you’re going to rent a multi-million dollar penthouse with a basement storage unit, there are going to be some cuts.

You need to decide what to keep, store, sell, donate, and ditch together (our decluttering flowchart will make it easier). Start with the furniture, because that’s the trickiest. Whose bed makes the move? What about the couch? Coffee table? Bookcases?

Come into this discussion willing to compromise, and be realistic. You may cherish the chairs you scored for $15 at a yard sale in college, but they’ve probably seen better days.

Next, move on to duplicate appliances, like TVs, microwaves, coffee makers, and blenders. Who knows, you may even decide to shrink 11 big kitchen appliances into one small Lakeland Multichef. And don’t forget about your duplicate drinking glasses, eating utensils, and cooking tools. Those items need to be considered, too.

Also, keep an eye on little things like books (here’s how to decide what books to keep or get rid of) and DVDs (here’s how to store and sell DVDs for cash). There’s a good chance that both of you own copies of Almost Famous (or Bad Boys), but you only need one in your new place.

Once you’ve sorted everything to satisfaction, plan out any necessary trips to the storage unit, Goodwill, and/or dumpster.

Then, just to put a bow on everything, pick out one new item for the apartment together. It can be a lamp, a dresser, or just a set of coasters for now. It’ll help the place feel like a shared space — and give you both an early lesson on making household decisions.

Mistake 8: Not dividing up chores

Who wants to spend all their spare time fighting about dishes? Having a conversation about cleaning responsibilities early can help you avoid a ton of silly arguments about whose turn it is to vacuum.

You don’t need to map out a strict chore schedule but do talk about expectations and the chores each of you hates doing the most. Maybe you loathe laundry, but your partner doesn’t mind it. This means your partner can grab that task, while you take care of the porcelain throne scrubbing he/she can’t stand.

If there’s a massive gap between the two of you in terms of tidiness, you might want to hire a cleaning service. That way, the “neat freak” isn’t constantly losing it over the “slob’s” trail of dirty socks.

Mistake 9: Spending all your time together

Just because you live together now doesn’t mean you should be shut-ins. You’re bound to drive each other insane if you spend every spare minute in the apartment, just the two of you. So get outside and spend some time apart.

Go out for drinks with your college friends. Post up in your favorite coffee shop with a new book. Keep up with any hobbies or interests your significant other doesn’t share.

Is there an art exhibit you’re dying to see, that you know isn’t his/her scene?

Go to it by yourself.

Obviously, this doesn’t mean you should ditch date nights, or refuse to hang out with your partner’s friends in favor of your own. It just means you should have an active social life that’s yours.

Giving each other space is key to preserving the peace, especially if you live in a tiny apartment with your significant other. Talk to each other about alone time, because it applies to more than just that standing Margarita Mondays appointment you have with your coworkers.

Sometimes you’re going to be upset or overwhelmed, and you’ll need some space (or perhaps an Ecocapsule) to sort out your feelings before you talk to your partner about it. Make sure your partner knows that it doesn’t mean you’re mad at him/her, or don’t trust him/her.

Maybe you just need to sit alone on the couch for a minute, preferably with a sleeve of Oreos. Your partner can join in later.

Mistake 10: Hiring a shady moving company

It’s tempting to speed through this step. You’ve just spent weeks sorting through your stuff, assigning chores, and having many long, serious talks. Can’t you just pick a mover and be done with it?


If you need to hire movers, don’t solely rely on the first company that appears on Google after you search “cheap movers near me.” Do your research, ask your friends, and compare prices. Hire professional movers that take care of your items as if it was their own. Hire Clutter!

11. Not calling Clutter for on-demand smart storage

When it comes to finding storage for the extra Crock-Pot, coat rack, comforter, and mattress in your inventory, don’t go with a random self-storage facility way across town where insane things happen. Go with Clutter.

Simply schedule a storage pickup and we’ll pick up all your duplicate stuff — plus that Pasta Boat your partner vetoed.

Next, we’ll transport everything to our secure temperature-controlled storage facility. We’ll even create an online photo catalog of your stuff so you never forget what you have in storage.

But that’s not all. Here’s something you and your new roommate will absolutely love:

When you want something back from storage, simply log into your Clutter account, select the item’s photo, and we’ll deliver it to you.

You and your significant other might disagree on how to cook spaghetti, but thanks to Clutter, you’ll never disagree on how to store your stuff.

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FAQs About Moving in Together

Moving in together is a significant step in any relationship. Here are answers to some common questions couples often have before taking this big leap.

Q: How long should a couple be together before moving in together?

There’s no set timeframe, but it’s important to feel confident in your relationship and have open, honest discussions about your expectations and plans.

Q: Is it normal to have doubts about moving in together?

Yes, it’s perfectly normal to have doubts. Moving in together is a big step, and it’s important to communicate your concerns with your partner to address any issues beforehand.

Q: What should you know before moving in together?

Discuss finances, chores, personal habits, and future plans. Understanding each other’s expectations can prevent conflicts and ensure a smoother transition.

Q: How do you maintain personal space and respect boundaries while living together?

Set clear boundaries and communicate openly about your need for personal space. Respect each other’s alone time and establish areas in your home where you can retreat when needed.

Q: How do we integrate our belongings and decide what stays, goes, or gets replaced?

Sort through your items together and decide what you both want to keep. Consider storage solutions for excess belongings and be willing to compromise on what gets replaced or donated.


Clutter is more than just storage.

To find out how you can declutter your life, talk to one of our space experts. We’ll get you started with the right storage plan for you.

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